I really like to speak to men regarding the subject of monogamy because in most cases the man is the one known to stray (I said, “most” Yes! woman cheat as well). But the question remains, is monogamy really real? I know in the Bible, kings had many wives/mistresses but was also punished for such an act. As a people we want to live a healthy mental, physical and spiritual life but we are sinner that are subject to deviant behavior. I just read an article in Ebony magazine about a man who married his soulmate but cheated on his wife for seven year, had unprotected sex (with all his mistresses), one of his mistresses became pregnant, his wife divorce him and now he is try to co-parent with a woman her barely knows. WOW!
From my research, I get my information from common folks that speak candidly about their sex lives and I found that a lot of people are having sex with other people besides their partner. The reasons range from:
- Not being sexually satisfied at home
- Want something different
- Lack of sex at home
- No longer attracted to their partner
- Love Sex
My opinion is developed from personal experience an information I collected and my conclusion is… It’s up to the individual to decide what they want from a relationship and part of that is knowing who you are, understanding the value a relationship and communicating effectively. Not every person is built for a monogamous relationship with you. For example, you met someone you two are attracted to each other, the sex is outstanding but your morals & values are not in sync… This will only be a sexual relationship and that’s perfectly fine. See! you have to look at the relationship as a whole, make a conscience decision which will save you from unnecessary heartache. However, monogamy is suppose, if an only if, you are honest with yourself and your partner.