I’ve been dreading writing this article because the topic gives me flashbacks.
Sometimes people hurt you in so many little ways that you don’t remember what it felt like to be unbothered. It can be a lack of validation or attention, a lessening in personal consideration for the other person, disrespect, not being the same person you were when you met them, them not being the person you thought you needed, the list goes on. All these things are forms of heartbreak. When you’ve finally found yourself at your wit’s end, you call it quits.
What do you do with your time now?
Some people mourn very grimly and very publicly, shedding tears and their reservations about showing emotion in front of others. Other people seem to move on immediately. They take action now and ask the emotional questions later. We all grieve differently.
It sounds dramatic but honestly I feel that it is. Losing someone who knows a ton about you, who voluntarily pledged to always take care of you, that’s some serious stuff. The one thing you knew for sure about became the question at the forefront of your every day existential crisis, that’s heartbreak, and it shouldn’t be taken lightly.
Is it always going to be that way? Absolutely not; but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck if and when it happens to you.
Maybe I’m just speaking from experience, but it hurts because you carry it around. What’s worse is you can’t really explain it to anyone; at most people can sympathize, but they don’t really know for sure because everyone feels things differently.
The only way to improve is to start picking up things that you enjoy, things you always wanted to do that your past-partner might not have let you do, or something crazy and outside of your comfort zone that you were secretly always wanting to try. My personal favorite is the break-up piercing: piercings require care and attention, much like a relationship, and they make you look super edgy.
You might hurt from time to time, but there’s a reason for those feelings and you need to explore them. Running away from your emotions is a sure-fire way on how to find yourself at a dead-end with them, sometimes in the least-healthy way. Also, in this exploration, you realize all the things you weren’t so happy with during your relationship, and how you’ll use those instances to better yourself and what you’ll never put up with again. You realize that not only were there bad times, and you’re glad to have survived them, but there were also good times, and you should be glad you got to experience them. Memories don’t lose value just because you’re now estranged from those who are in them.
When thinking wellness and relationships, the only thing that really comes to mind is that they’re learning experiences. I know people learn so much while they’re in relationships, but don’t forget how much you learn about yourself and what you deserve when you’re alone.
Tell me how you feel, when was the last time you got your heart broken? How did you handle it? Where are you now?
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